Hello Reader,
Have you ever impulsively bought something – something you really didn’t need or even realized you wanted – and then instantly regretted it? Well, maybe not instantly. More like after it already shipped and it’s too late to cancel?
Yeah.
I recently bought a skateboard. Never in my life have I thought about buying a skateboard. Yet here it is sitting in my room. I also bought a helmet. And some knee and elbow pads. And lest I forget, I also bought roller skates. I’m usually pretty good at controlling my shopping. I rarely buy things I don’t need or, at least, really want. So what exactly happened here?
Well. Lately I’ve been living on cloud 9 a bit. I had an article I wrote published on a website, and I’ve been coming out of the mental funk I’d been dwelling in. With my mind clear, I decided to jump back on the fun bandwagon and was searching for activities I could join in. I came across a women’s skateboarding group that looked like fun. Here was a group of cool women having fun together and inspiring each other. I felt inspired. Inspired enough apparently to impulsively buy a skateboard.
I’ve never had much of an interest in skateboarding. Nor do I have much experience. My experience with skateboarding amounts to a few times where I sat on a board and rolled myself along, managing each time to run over my fingers. My smushed fingers and bruised ego from those experiences left a sour taste in my mouth about the whole thing. But seeing these cool women doing something new and fun made me want to give skateboarding a proper go. I wanted to ‘surf the concrete’ like them.
So really, I bought the skateboard to feel like I was part of a group. To feel like I was doing something cool. And that’s not to say that I wouldn’t enjoy skateboarding if I tried it, but the fact is, it’s not really something I have any strong desire to do. And honestly, I feel silly for buying it in the first place (but that is a whole other bag to unpack, and we don’t have that kind of time). Like what am I trying to prove here?
But I don’t want to be too harsh on myself. I just really want to have more fun in life. I hate saying it, but being a grown up can be a bit… boring. We get so stuck in our routines and in our worries. There isn’t always time for pure fun. And I get stuck in my head, thinking the same thoughts over and over again. I want to do something that’ll help pull me out of that negative space and give me something fun to focus on. Skateboarding seemed like a fun outlet.
But as I noted earlier, I also bought roller skates. Now, roller skating is something I used to genuinely love doing, and it has crossed my mind over the years that maybe I should buy myself some skates and take it up again. I even told my sister that for my 30th birthday I’d love to go to a roller rink. Since I was already shopping for a skateboard, my mind naturally went to roller skates. And gosh, roller skates are not cheap! But I told myself it would be fun to have them.
However, I regret purchasing them. Again, I feel silly for buying them in the first place. This was such a frivolous purchase, and one that I’m not sure I’ll use. While I wouldn’t label myself a minimalist, I do use minimalism as a tool for my life. A minimalist lifestyle is something I value, and this purchase went against that completely. To me, minimalism is about living intentionally, and this purchase was anything but intentional.
As I said before, I am looking for more fun in my life, but I feel a bit like a puppy scampering about distracted by a bunch of shiny new things. I am allowing myself to be whipped around by the wind. My decisions are lacking intention and are instead becoming too impulsive. Instead of stopping to really ask myself if I really want to learn to skateboard, I just said ‘that seems fun, why not?’ And now I have to deal with the whole return process when I wish I would have just given these things more thought and then decided not to buy them.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with jumping into new things without a second thought. The problem I have with my purchase is not with skateboarding or roller skating. My problem is with the purchase. I didn’t explore options outside of buying these items. I could have asked someone I know if they have a board I could borrow, but I didn’t. I could have gone to the roller rink a few times and rented skates to see if skating was something I really wanted to take up again, but I didn’t. I bought these things without a second thought.
I went against something that is important to me.
But, the silver lining here is that this has been a bit of a wake up call. I now see how my spending lately has been more than I’m comfortable with, and that I’m not putting my money to the best use for me. I’ve been throwing my money around like I’m P. Diddy or something. And that is just so not like me.
I need to take a step back, breathe, and then intentionally continue on my quest for fun. ‘Cause we all could use more fun in our lives, no?